In 1985 a very young Rocky was working at Radio Station 2RDJ-FM in Sydney where he spent Friday evenings creating a playlist for the Saturday morning announcer, and Monday evenings presenting his own somewhat disjointed radio programme. He also spent time doing other radio type things like joining bits of wire and producing promos. Obviously he didn’t have a life.
One Friday evening a slightly younger man turned up at the studio. (We’ll call him Greig.) He was also to present his own brand of radio but his biggest skill was in his technical ability (not that his skill as a radio presenter was anything to be ashamed of). Rocky and Greig soon became good friends, working together on Friday nights, producing terribly complicated special projects and generally having a good time.
Their friendship was strained though, for Greig had a terrible secret. It turned out that he had homosexual tendencies and even worse, he was thinking lustful thoughts about his good friend and work partner, Rocky. In October of 1986, in a fit of alcohol induced honesty, Greig came out to Rocky – admitting his homosexuality, but not his lust.
Rocky was silent, reassuring Greig that his admission would not affect their friendship. He was wrong though, as Rocky had his own secret. Rocky also had homosexual tendencies. It wasn’t until two days later that Rocky told Greig. The last thing he wanted was some sort of sexual relationship to complicate the good working relationship and close friendship that they had built up.
In October 2011 Rocky and Greig celebrated their twenty-fifth anniversary as partners. If they manage to avoid killing each other then they will probably be celebrating again in 2016.
This is a true story.
Things have changed a lot since those days at the radio station. Greig now wears his hair shorter. Rocky no longer sports a blonde mo (he can get into bars without being asked for I.D. now). They both wear more colourful clothes. Generally society has accepted them as a couple even if the law doesn’t.
The picture on the right was taken at the Christmas party for Greig’s place of work – an occasion attended by all his heterosexual workmates and their spouses or partners. There is never any question of the validity of the relationship.
These days Rocky and Greig are still running those special projects. In one way or another they have been involved in the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras every year since they’ve been together.
The first year they worked as Marshalls, keeping the then huge parade of almost thirty floats together and even pushing one of the Mardi Gras entries – a giant box of Fruit Loops. The next year they were working the arms of a giant robot from within the body of the machine.
Following years saw them working on their own floats: two floats with Pinkboard BBS, two for the AIDS Council of N.S.W. and several with the Riverina Gay and Lesbian Support and Social Group.
This picture above was taken while working on one of the Wagga floats, its theme being “Wagga Wagga 2650 – The Closet Years”. Greig had bleached his hair blonde for the parade and party. Both look pretty “frazzled” in this photo – getting a Mardi Gras float happening is a lot of very hard work starting early on the morning of the parade and heavy physical labour all day.
In 1995 Rocky and Greig committed to the most legally binding thing a same-sex couple could do in Australia at the time. They bought a house together, finally moving out of the two bedroom flat that they’d lived in since they’d been together.
This allowed them the space to spread out their multitude of possessions and still have room left to throw the occasional dinner party or even more occasional raging party.
In 2003 they did it again. Will they ever learn? Not content with owning a house, they decided to buy a warehouse. (A house that suddenly grows hair and roams the streets at night, ripping peoples throats out whenever there is a full moon.) This allowed them to spread out their multitude of possessions even more and still have room left for the occasional round of golf.